It represents choices that we’ve made in life. Our style is a symbol of who and what we are. trying to look nice) was the most important quality of a man’s style on a first date. However, the most common theme in the written portion of the survey? Above all else, effort (e.g. In fact, of the 101 women surveyed, not one mentioned designer clothes. EFFORT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGĭoes it matter if you’re wearing expensive designer clothes on a first date? No. Here’s a brief overview of the women I spoke with:Īnd here’s what they said: #1. Women from as close as New York City, to as far away as Tokyo, Sydney, and Tehran. In total, I gathered 101 responses from women of all backgrounds, jobs, ages, and locations. I spent the last 5 months asking women around the world a question: What should a guy wear on the first date? Of course, you’ll need to know what to get. You can head to a menswear shop and do a complete 180 in 15 minutes. Unsure of your career and life path? Good luck changing that in a week.īad style? No problem. If you’re an introvert, it’s going to take a lot of practice to improve your conversation skills. Your style is one of the easiest things you can improve when it comes to dating. GOOD NEWS: IMPROVING YOUR STYLE IS EASYīefore you curse the world, let’s take something else into account. If your doctor came in wearing an oversized shirt, messy hair, sweatpants and dirty shoes, would you want him looking at your kid? NOPE. It’s the reason why when surveyed, 76% of patients found doctors who wore white lab coats more trustworthy. Presentation matters, whether it’s a plate of pasta, or what you wear on a date. When you don’t know a lot about someone, all you can judge them on is what you see. This is called Thin slicing - it’s making snap judgments on something based on the information you have at hand.

Vibrant, colorful food on clean white plates symbolize to us freshness, cleanliness, and that it’s healthy to eat. Judging by its looks, It’s probably not as nutritious and is most likely going to make us sick. You’re less likely to eat sad looking food in disposable tins because we associate sad looking food with unhealthy.

What do you think their answer always is? “She should like me for who I am!” Guys say in response. You’d be surprised how often I get this kind of reaction, especially when I bring up that one of the best “dating hacks” is to improve your style.

(Conversation tip: Sticking out your hand and saying “Hey, it was great to meet you.” is the best way to leave a conversation you don’t want to be in.) Hey, it was great to meet you.”Īnd then I walked away to pour myself a much-needed drink. “I want people to like me for who I am, not whether I’m wearing a nice suit or whatever.” It’s usually followed up by something offensive or racist.) (I love when people say “no offense”, or “not to sound racist”. Yes, someone said this to me at a party recently. I don’t focus so much on superficial stuff like that.” (This is where I try to decide whether to give the polite answer or the real answer.)ģ. Whenever I’m at a party and I tell people that I’m a personal stylist for men, I get one of three reactions: BUT WAIT, THAT’S SUPERFICIAL! LOOKS SHOULDN’T MATTER! SHE SHOULD LIKE ME FOR WHO I AM! So it’s in your best interest to use the only tool you got in that brief, 1/10th of a second: your style. It means that before you’ve even opened your mouth, she’s already sized you up. So what does this mean for you my single, dating friend? What if I told you you actually had less time than that?Īccording to a study done by Princeton, it actually only takes the brain 1/10th of a second to make a snap judgment of someone. You’ve probably heard the saying “It only takes 7 seconds to make a first impression”. It made such an impression on her that it has survived a good 5 closet purges. “It’s my favorite shirt on you.” She says. A striped tabbed collar dress shirt from Robert Geller. If you asked my girlfriend about our first date, she couldn’t tell you much, except for one thing - the shirt I was wearing. They’re known for their amazing cocktails, which we gladly put to the test. On our first date, my girlfriend and I went to PDT (above), a really cool speakeasy bar here in NYC hidden behind a phone booth in a hot dog shop.

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